But how do we embrace ourselves, just the way we are, including all of our imperfections? Oftentimes, we have knowingly or unknowingly created some sort of list that we have to satisfy first, before we “are worthy.”
I’ll be worthy if I lose twenty pounds.
I’ll be worthy if I can get pregnant.
I’ll be worthy if I make partner (or become a manager, director, VP, have a successful business, etc.)
I’ll be worthy if everyone thinks I am a good parent.
I’ll be worthy when my parents finally approve.
I’ll be worthy if I have a boyfriend/girlfriend (get engaged, get married, etc.)
It never ends. Once we finally reach one item on our list, we focus on a new one. We have to get to the point where we believe that we are worthy now. Not if or when we reach a certain goal. We are worthy and we are enough RIGHT NOW. There is nothing we need to accomplish first.
I used to have several items on my list I needed to accomplish successfully in order to feel worthy. There was always the next higher work title I needed to get to (first manager, then director etc.) I wanted my parents’ approval. Then there were all the day-to-day goals. What is on your list of things you need to satisfy before you are worthy?