All of us are looking for love. Whether we are single and looking for a partner or in a relationship and want to feel more love from the person we are with. And what we want most of all is unconditional love: Feeling loved for just the way we are, even when we are not at our best. So we seek this unconditional love and are disappointed when we don’t find it. Yet how often do we give unconditional love, especially to ourselves?
How do you treat yourself when you don’t finish something on time, make a mistake, or act in a way you didn’t want to? Do you love yourself unconditionally or do you criticize and blame yourself?
And how about when a loved one is late, does something to annoy you, or acts in a way you didn’t want them to? Do you love him or her unconditionally or do you criticize and show your annoyance?
I believe that it all starts with ourselves. If we don’t love ourselves unconditionally, forgive ourselves, and treat ourselves with compassion and understanding, it makes it difficult to do the same for others.
So I invite you to bring more unconditional love into your life by being kind to yourself. Forgive yourself. If you have a pet, a friend, or a partner who is showing you love, return the same love not only to them, but feel it also for yourself. Love yourself, so you can love the ones you care about.